When Life Feels Like It's Falling Apart

Do you ever have that feeling that your life is falling apart?

You know things aren't going well. This isn't what you expected or hoped for. You're overwhelmed and don't know which way to turn. You don't know which choice you need to make.

Is this what life is all about? Things fall apart. Things come back together, although perhaps not as they once were.

It's like a cycle or the circle of life. Endings aren't usually happy times, but the Beginnings are happy and oftentimes exciting.

I've been at the "Falling Apart" stage numerous times in my life--we all have. I never like it. I'm in that stage right now, and I really don't like it!

It's very tempting to want to try and hide. But then, of course, you're taking yourself with you, so hiding won't work.

Then it's equally tempting to try to fix or change the feeling. I mean, I've already said I don't like the feeling of falling apart, so why can't I just "fix it" or at least "change it?"

But that feeling wants to be honored and respected.

My response, "No-no-no-no! I just want that feeling to go away and leave me alone. Why can't it do that?" (Does any of this sound familiar for you, too? --- I know I am not the only one.)

It turns out feelings are there for a reason: to teach, to guide, to help, to warn, to slow down, to breathe, to love, to grow, to give thanks.......

There are tears, sadness, smiles, laughter, anger, frustration, joy, and love in all of those feelings of falling apart and coming together.

So, what can you do when you feel like your life is falling apart?

Here's what I do, or try to do, When Life Feels Like It's Falling Apart.

Perhaps this may help you, too.

I pause.....I breathe.....Close my eyes......I acknowledge the feeling.......I allow myself to feel and just be with that falling apart feeling.......

The feeling itself shifts, and isn't so overwhelming or engulfing, and I'm able to walk "through" that feeling. It's no longer so overwhelming. It's no longer a barrier.

Sometimes I repeat my process (pause...breathe...close eyes...acknowledge...allow).

The falling apart makes me all the more thankful for the coming together.

May God Bless us, everyone!

To Your Courageous Self!

Edie Savage-Weeks

Transformational Life Coach

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