Transform the Relationship With Yourself

The world and life's activites pull us in a myriad of directions. Sometimes we may even get lost in all of the demands placed upon us.

We may find ourselves saying "yes" when we need to say "no" (think work assignments or taking on more responsibility and then feeling overwhelmed). And more often than not, we are saying "no" (like invitations to meet for coffee/tea, or time with friends/family) when we need to be saying yes.

I know I'm not the only one who feels this way. What about you? Does any of this fit for you?

Somehow we think we're supposed to be doing more--then more--then more. And that's when we get lost.

So, pause and ask yourself: (write down your immediate response without thinking too much)

• What is this/my life all about?

• Who am I?

• Who do I want to be?

• How do I want to be living my life?

• Is there a more authentic way to live my life?

Now breathe. Breathe in slowly through your nose-----then breathe out slowly through your mouth. Breathe.......

Read your answers to the above questions.

Are you thinking, "Well, I can't do/have/be __________, because_________."

These are the things you are telling yourself that are keeping you stuck.

Your answers of "I can't" are excuses. They seem valid to you because of your mindset--Your beliefs in how you see yourself/your identity. And all of that is based on past personal experiences or what you have observed.

We learn from our experiences and observations. But some of those experiences and observations may not be serving us now. This is true for me, and it is true for you, because we're always growing and changing.

Think about your own life.

• Are there things you want to change? (Examples: better health, more money, more joy in your life, time with family and friends, a better or more fulfilling job, and the list goes on)

• Are there things you want to do? (Examples: travel, write a book, run a marathon, learn to play a musical instrument, go back to school, learn a foreign language, and the list goes on)

• Are there things you want to change within yourself? (Examples: more patience, more welcoming, say "yes" to invitations, laugh, sing, and dance more, less critical of yourself, and the list goes on)

And these are the things--the areas--that we can change--that we can transform.

When we make those changes, we transform our relationship with ourselves.

There's no magic wand. This change, this transformation requires work and commitment on your part. This transformation takes time. It's a process--a journey. Because you want your transformation to last, unlike New Year's resolutions which generally last for a maximum of four months, you also want to get support. The support or guidance or accountability can come from family, friends, a life coach, or a program.

You are worth it!

And remember, you are never too old or too young to create a life you love living-- a life of health and well-being.

To Your Courageous Self!

Edie Savage-Weeks

Transformational Life Coach

PS Reach out to me if you have questions about coaching. I'd love to hear from you.